I have dated alot of girls and after dating this one for 2 years i was 100% sure i was going to marry her. We got in a small fight and she needed some time. well it seemed like things were beginning to work out again, she told me to call her the next day and i did, she didnt answer. so i bought her flowers and chocolate and went to her house, i used her car garage opener to get in and she was in the shower, she wouldnt come out to talk to me she just kept crying. so i left. later that night she told me she was scared for her life. i have never done anything to make her think that way. i was only there to show how much i cared. looking back maybe i should of just left the flowers by her door. but all i could think about was the smile that was going to be on her face. well now she has told me she doesnt ever think she can date me again after me breaking in and scaring her like that. i would take a bullet for this girl, not hurt her. im so lost. comments and help are much appreciated!
she thought i was yelling at her, i was just trying to get her to talk to me. after 2 years i just wanted to get 10 minutes to talk to the love of my life. she said i was banging on the door and yelling which scared her. i had no intentions of scaring her, only there to make everything better, and in turn i ruined it all, probably forever…….comments much appreciated
Originally posted 2008-09-23 06:04:29.
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explain this to her. she should understand
I think what you did was very sweet i wish my guy would do that. lol just giver her sometime she will soon realize what you meant to her and that you were not trying to be weird.
i know you gave her time to think after the breakup. but since that incident, she may need a lil more time to think rationally. send her a letter letting her know that since ya’ll weren’t together that you realize (now) that you shouldn’t have let yourself in. and you can image how scary that must have been for her. and that all you wanted to do was show your love and a lil romance.
as far as knowing you want to marry her. ya’ll are both still young, esp her. so let’s not think about marriage right now.
man first off let me start by saying you are one heck of a guy. in my opinion it was wrong for you to go into her house but you were there for good and you know that. its just time before she realizes that. and i imagine there was some stern arguements going on especially with you wanting that 10 minutes to talk badly. but unless you have scared her before she will soon realize how much you care and just how awesome of a guy you are. i hope everything works out for you, email if you need to talk. linda
i agree with the others, time will let her realize how much you guys liked each other. unless you have scared or threatened to hurt her before then she really has nothing to be afraid of. And you said she would not come out to talk which means she is emotionally lost, so scared is just something she will feel temporarily. at the same time if she has not talked to you in about 2 weeks or so, you are going to have to try to move on with your life. If she really does care, and really does love you enough that you guys have talked about marriage, then she will have talked to you within a couple weeks. good luck to you sir
“but all i could think about was the smile that was going to be on her face” I am a married man, been that way for 4 fantastic years, but reading that gives me the chills. You really do care, you are exactly the type of guy we need more of. Follow your dreams, i can promise you if you care this much more than likely so does she. Just give it time, she will understand. Also dont worry about marriage right now. I wish you the best of luck and you sound like you are going to make a great husband someday.