Originally posted 2008-09-28 23:39:56.
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Guys would you breakup with a girlfriend if you disagreed with her on an abortion decision? What if she never?
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no.
i like girls having their own opinions.
i dont want to date someone who thinks exactly like me.
i might as well just marry myself.
So she lied about having an abortion in the past? It was her past and really don’t know why she did it. Would you be dating her if she has a child? Either way you are judging her for something she did in the past. Girls that have abortions never forget about it ever. It is something she will have to live with the rest of her life. She doesn’t need you acting all high and mighty about it. If you like her then let the past be in the past. If you think she is a bad person and you have no interest in being with her now that you know then break up with her.
depends, if it happened to me, if she wanted to have an abortion, and i didnt, would reak up with her with out even 2nd thinking it.
Was it your baby? if not i don’t think you have the right to say she was either wrong or right to make that decision.
Also you have to remember an issue like that is 100x worse for the girl because its her body and she is the one with the bulk of the problem.
just my opinion.
I am a girl, but I hope my answer helps.
You may be feeling angry at her, and sure, it is something that the both of you are responsible for and probably would have been better handled though discussion, but in the end, it’s her life she’s changing.
Sure it has an impact on your life, but this child she is bringing into the world is gonna affect her a lot more than it would you. Think of her family, her education, her life that is going to change direction. She may have had plans for the future that she can’t do with a baby at home to think about.
She had obviously thought it through a lot, I mean, having an abortion isn’t really a choice between the red lolly pop or the yellow one, and not told you for a reason. If it upsets you, talk to her about it.
You should respect her dicisions, especailly as she could be traumatised by the experience and the thing she needs most is a person she loves to comfort her.
Breaking up with the girl isn’t the answer. Sure, if you are against this sort of thing, it is okay to be angry at her, but not everyone is perfect and she may have some valid reasons.
I really hope this helps and you sort things out, good luck :]
I’m a girl, but if i were a guy, i would leave her. as a girl, i would totally still have the abortion if thats what i wanted to do, but i would have let him know about the pregnancy when i found out, let him know that i am not ready to have a child, and then we’d take it from there. abortions are serious and theyre not birth control at all, but sometimes they ROCK! (sorry pro-lifers, but i’m a scientist.) and if **** ***** enough that an abortion is the only way to go and if he isnt willing to have the baby for you, it’s a no brainer. just dont make the same mistake twice or 15 times like some people because they are little potential people and they really dont deserve such stupidity. be careful out there too. if you become pregnant, u most definitely can become infected with diseases. next time, wrap it up. as far as the dude goes, he might never forgive a girl for soemthing like that because it’s underhanded and deceitful whether he knew about the pregnancy and not the abortion or if he never knew u were pregnant to begin with. dont mess with babies. i know abortions make them magically disappear, but as a pro-choicer, it still ***** every time and you shouldnt be the same irresponsible person when you come out of the clinic.
In a heartbeat.